TimesUp for us men

No man can deny, they wouldn’t exist without a fe-male

You should have more respect instead of acting all-male

For sure you may get more testosterone it’s just for reproduction

Nature has its way to ensure

That the human race continues her production

It doesn’t mean you have to act all cool

To pretend you are the dominant fool

Appreciating both sexes, takes more male power

You may even appreciate the occasional flower

Ask any male and they’d agree they have more love for their mother

But how does it happen when it turns into hate for their significant lover?

Stop being in denial of your evil deeds

Time’s up and soon all your acting will show in the feeds

Nature has blessed you with an eye for the feminine

It’s just for reproduction and definitely not for the swinging

Connect with the wo-man within, start appreciating

The opposite sex will always give you the guidance to have you flying

Instead of your anger that may result in giving her a hiding

You can start acting cool when you finally realise that the fe-male is there to be admired

She coined the phrase Time’s Up, it’s time to listen to her, take her seriously and be inspired

Michael de Groot

Control

I’ve been reflecting quite a bit on the #metoo movement, where men and women are calling for an end to sexual harassment and abuse. And about time too.

I know both sexes can be accused of being perpetrators in this and although I wouldn’t wish to take sides, I am siding with women more so. Why?

I’m not sure, maybe I sense that they haven’t had a voice and haven’t been heard, they’ve been afraid that they wouldn’t be believed and that their stories would be ignored.

There are days when I feel embarrassed to be a man, I am truly angry and disgusted to think that my fellow man has had it within himself to carry out these crimes against women. I sense the pain that women are going or have gone through and I wish I could do something to help and stop it happening.

Unfortunately the truth is that it carries on every single day and we have no idea, because many women still don’t speak out about it. It is unacceptable and it has always been unacceptable and somehow millions of men are getting away with it every day. I know women get away with it too.

Men all over the world that agree that this has to stop forever, need to take a stance and when they witness or sense there is a perpetrator around women, we must confront them and tell them they have to stop. We must all be leaders in this and if we as men can not stand up for women and men of course, who are being abused then we really can not call ourselves men.

We must report it, regardless of how small the incident may be. Even the manner in which some men talk about women, maybe how they complain or sexualise women, we must tell them that it’s no longer acceptable. We may lose friends as a result, we may make some enemies, but we must stay firm in the belief that this is no longer acceptable.

I interviewed Madeleine Black for my podcast, ‘Share Your Story’ and I really struggled to interview her and found myself hesitating with questions I wanted to ask. Please feel free to listen to the episode.

Maybe us men that feel the same should start a new hashtag and start exposing the abusers and help them to feel differently about women and stop the abuse.

How about #weseeyou

Happy supporting!

Michael de Groot